No Secrets, Only Surprises

It’s so hard to let our children in on the knowledge that not everyone out there is nice.

Several years ago, we heard a great piece of advice about secrets.  Since our AS children have targets painted on their foreheads – bullies sense ‘different’ and love to prey on it – it’s necessary to deal with the bad secret.  Before it happens.

A secret, however, can be an elusive thing.  Sure, a secret like stolen lunch money, being beaten up, teased, or picked on is obviously painful and needs to be shared.

But what about birthday presents?

How does one differentiate between the don’t-tell-Mommy-about-her-gift secret and the bad secrets?  Remembering that we’re dealing with children who function best without confusing shades of grey?

Definition.  A ‘secret’ is bad… but a ‘surprise’ is good.  Black-and-white, no confusion.

Long live the birthday surprise!


About aspergerfamily3

Living in an Asperger's World, surrounded by a love of learning, interesting people, and daily challenges.
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